More than Friends

More than Friends

Be bold : Are you scared of “pressuring” her into a relationship, or “ruining” the friendship by expressing your interest or making a move? Do you hold back in a variety of ways?

You have to understand that when you make other people’s feelings more important than your own (rather than trying to find a happy balance) you communicate to people (subconsciously) that your own feelings don’t matter.

This makes it seem like you have low self-worth, which is the opposite of confidence. While some people are attracted to ever agreeable mates, maybe this girl is not. If you think this is the case, read How to Break the “Nice Guy” Stereotype.

Break the touch barrier : For many girls, a big distinction between “friendship” and “relationship” is the way they touch. There are more platonic ways to touch someone, and more romantic ways, and the boundary is different for different people. But if you’re terrified of touching her the wrong way, to the extent that you hesitate and never touch them first, your intentions are good and all, but your “touch paralysis” isn’t helping you at all in the romantic department.

Take a few little “touch risks”. Don’t just always wait for them to do it first. If she doesn’t like it, she’ll definitely let you know. But touching someone communicates to them that you find them attractive, and also that you’re reasonably confident. Both of these things can make her feel more attracted to you. Read more tips in How to Touch a Girl.

Flirt :A big part of being charming is knowing how to flirt, and the people who are best at flirting are people who are always in a playful and laid back state of mind. It’s the opposite of being serious, nervous, or uptight. Hit on her all the time. Hide in plain sight. Make it a point to make her always aware that s/he is your idea of cute, sexy, and adorable – even when others are around. And compliment her. Girls are suckers for compliments. Say something like, “Wow, you look nice today” or, “You’re such a good friend”. Don’t compliment them to much though. It may seem a little creepy to them.

Do exciting things together : Be spontaneous. Take her somewhere she’s never been. Don’t just be someone she feels comfortable with; be someone she’s excited to see, because every day you have something new to talk about, something new to try. Guide her out of her comfort zone. Going on a new adventure together is great setting for sparking a romantic bond.

Figure out if there’s any chance she feels the same way : Start probing, very gently – keep things very light, and use humor to prevent things from taking a serious turn, but when you hear a clue, pursue that clue. For example, she says, “I just hate that guys always turn out to be jerks.” You say, “So does that mean I have a chance, then?” Then wink and grin. But watch for her reaction. Her body language may give you a real indication of whether or not she is considering that very possibility.

Learn to accept your platonic relationship : If she responds to your confession with rejection, you have no choice but to accept it. Be gracious and understanding, and assure your friend that you have had these feelings for some time and it hasn’t affected your friendship yet. However, you may need to allow some distance to develop in order to put some space between what you hoped might happen, and what you now realize is the reality of your situation. Don’t let so much distance develop that you allow it to strain your relationship, though – no matter how awkward you might feel, just go through the motions, and act like everything is normal. Putting one foot in front of the other is hard sometimes, but just the appearance of everything being okay is often enough to take hold, and soon everything really is okay.

Article Courtacy from WikiHow

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